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Tales of a relationship

How do you feel when someone lied to you from the beginning of a relationship until the end ?
Manipulated you even.
Played games with you.
Gave you the food his girlfriend cooked which by the way I never ate ..
Funny yeah.
How that saturday before we went to church together he didn't call me for a second.
Then on sunday he shows up and we go to church and return home to a pot of stew and already cooked rice.
I should have asked myself how efficient one guy could be.
Luckily I had my bands in.
Seperators.
I could barely chew and I didn't eat much.
I never ate anything else in that house in all the 5months we were together.
I mean, something was always going on in my mouth or I had eaten outside before we got home.
On two occasions we ate out.
This particular time, I got to the airport and almost missed my flight.
Almost at the aircraft door someone who knew I was coming suddenly said he had to go for service with his brother and family because 11am service was the only service to hold.
In a church I attended with you and we got there by 8am or so.
Suddenly they have an 11am service
Thereafter he would be going house hunting etc.
So I kept quiet.
He said I should go and stay with my uncle at lekki and wait for him.
I was almost livid.
Or I should go to luth and wait for him.
I was almost mad.
This is someone who got upset when I stayed at my uncles.
Then you expected me to just bump into them and say I came oh,I'm waiting for a man to pick me.
A man who had visited me outside their gate several times, taken me to church but still had never come in to greet them.
Or to luth just bounce on someone's empty flat during exam period.
I sat at the airport. Arrived at 10:50am prompt.
He said he was going to church,he would talk to me later.
Left me waiting after saying you can't wait at the airport for me,it won't work.
My entire mind was telling me to get in a cab and head to ibadan but I was double thinking.
This singular action cost me my fellowship exams.
I waited for an hour.
Took a cab to luth.
The hotel I planned to stay in was fully booked.
The other one was 10k a night and I wish I had quietly checked in.
I left luth trolling my box behind me all the way to the road.
Took a cab to another hotel.
They didn't have light.
I then took a cab to shoprite ikeja, found a shop and sat inside with my box,bag.
Waited for hours.
It was a total of 5hours .. He came by 3pm.
We hugged.
He said he was hot and he was actually sweating. That the house was hot.
We should go get icecream.
By this time I had been on my feet for 9hours since I left home and boarded a flight to lagos.
We got upstairs and had icecream.
I really tried to make convo.
I was tired as ever!

He kept making jokes about how we should go eat chinese because I was rich enough to pay a cab guy13k to take me to ibadan.
I had suggested chinese on a previous trip but that day,I just wasn't in the mood.
We went in shoprite and he paid for my calculator,bought a bottle of water and drank it.
We got in the car and he said he knew a great chinese place.
So we drove to V.I
And we had chinese.
I left my bag in the car.
He paid.
Little did I know that had qualified me as dubious!
We got home to no water,no food, empty house.
He sulked all the way back to surulere.
I kept wondering what was wrong.
Immediately we got in the house we had sex.
Like he just went on me and etc.
Subsequently it happened like 2more times and we slept off.
Woke up about 10pm and he was watching a movie.
I was parched!
We couldn't go get water because of the movie so I drank straight from the tap.
Suffice it to say I suffered a terrible bout of posioning which started the next day after drinking that water.
I was sick throughtout my exams
I left the next morning to ibdadan.
On getting in I called him.
That was the last time in one week I heard his voice
The next day he messaged me to say I was dubious
That I suggested we go eat chinese and I didn't pay.

xoxo

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