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The marriage problem in Nigeria

No kidding.
Are they actually giving presents to men who gave children out in marriage this year ?
This is how we are celebrating fathers day?
I absolutely cannot believe this.
I am almost in tears.
So this means I have to marry fast so my father can be given a gift in church.

How bad can this really get ?
I mean, the pressure from outsiders is not enough but now we have to deal with pressure in church ?
I feel like a failure sometimes
I'm not going to lie about this.
Somehow despite all I've achieved I feel like I haven't done a thing because I'm not married.
In my heart, I know God's time is definitely coming for me but I don't understand how this has become such an issue that the church has started doing things like this.

Once you appear to be of reproductive age, you are besieged with all sorts of questions about when you are getting married.

Varied forms like-
'Where is he'
When are we coming to eat rice ?
When will we eat cake
We want to dance
Ah, when are you giving us asoebi
THEN,
Why are you driving all the men away?
So you mean to tell me you have no boyfriend?

People look at your fingers before addressing you.
At work people feel they can talk to you anyway they choose because you are single.
Yesterday at work a nurse said this to me-

' You are a small child
I have a child older than you so you listen to me when I'm talking '
She came into my call room to say this.
And I'm wondering ???
They snort behind your back, make faces and say all sorts of things.
If I' had grown up or schooled here they would be peddling stories by now.

My parents pray day and night for a husband for me it sometimes irks me
I have no other desire save to be married and successful but the way they are probably embarrassed daily has pushed them to continuously push at heavens gate asking for a life partner.

Someday I'll get married but until then,
What really is this embarrassment in church ?
This is why I always sit behind at the back of the church and keep a low profile.
Marry I will, when the time comes by the Grace of God.

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