life and things

'Are you still in love with your ex ? ' 'What matters is we are together now' 1month later 'You and my ex have similarities. You both are frugal with money and often have a lot stashed somewhere but you don't lend' 'I am a very vindictive person' 1 week later ' It's not just thoughts and actions that have dwindled, the sex is not as interesting as it used to be' xoxo

I'm heartbroken Very heartbroken I'm considering getting married soon. But to whom ? Someone I barely love ? The bitterness and the pain of my last attempt at a relationship after 7years or more has left me traumatised. I can barely have a waking day without thinking of how I got involved with a spiteful person who had the mind to tell me he's a vindictive person and that he planned to pay me back for disturbing him to return money I lent him. Someone who said to me things that have stung and hurt for months after. I wonder how another human being could be so hurtful with his words. I really can't get over it. Now is just not the time to be getting involved with someone else. The pain is just too much. I don't know how I can possibly get over it. I'm experiencing heartbreak Not because I want to go back to the relationship but because I was verbally abused. Now I've said it I can finally come to terms with it. Verbal emotional abuse That...

The sound of your voice Saying mean things The way you looked When hatching those plans So different So alluring as in the beginning The illusion of grandeur A little push A little word A little action It all comes pouring From the depths of your heart The truth of your soul. The premium of money The work of laboured sex The things you tried to hide The lies that fell through You only use to be used The honesty you never had Go now and tell it. For she must lend to prove she cares Go now and tell the world She must sex you all night To prove she cares. Go now and tell it She must obey your every command Throw her family away Become lost in a man Who would never be there for her. You must always come first You will never love For you were born to use And used you will also be. xoxo

My last relationship didn't leave me bitter. Infact it didn't have any impact on me It was based on a lie. Someone who was purely interested in sex. Made it the bedrock of the relationship. Talked about sex for weeks. Asked about previous partners. You would almost feel like he would have loved to be there in the past. Eventually he said he would like a threesome. I'm got wondering. There are many reasons why a relationship can break down. Asking for a threesome is one of them. If it doesn't end right then, know it will sometime. Any man who doesn't respect you enough to open his mouth and ask for such is already shopping outside. I think we lasted a month extra after that. And the breakup line or pre breakup line Was 'The sex is not as interesting as it used to be' Are you a sex worker ? Or am I a prostitute you pay to have sex with you every day so I should work my ass off to make sex interesting. How interesting can sex be when yo...

The answer is NO. You know you don't want to. You're just here searching for a reason to prove it yourself. I've done it before and it was used against me. See, never tell your boyfriend how much you truly have. Never tell him how much you earn. You must always be broke and asking for support. Let him be a man and learn how to organise his finances. You should never lend him money for business or money to buy a car or rent a house. Take note of this! You will regret it if you do. Maybe not now Not today but sometime in the near future Men are built to provide. If he can ask you for money something has gone wrong. .. To be continued. Xoxo. xoxo

1. Have you bought new bedsheets 2. I hope you wash your towel every week 3. Stained clothes means you're dirty In other news, you were freaking dirty. Don't ask me how I dated you. I have no answer. Perhaps I was searching for love And you came along just in time This is why you go on a few dates before you commit We jumped the gun and slept on the same sheets for 5months. Weeks after , weeks in. We never opened the windows My allergies escalated in those 5months. I never imagined how I would cope in such filth but I stayed there. I guess I hoped things would change or I could change you. Just so we get it clear, I won't have that a second time even if I was paid a million plus. Life is so much better without you xoxo

A.The world is a lonely place.if you look beyond all the noise,merrymaking and glee.beyond the faces of people who seem to have everything.beyond their ice walls and facades.you will see it.a haunted look.a cry from a soul languishing in a myriad of problems.we all have them in our irises.blue black,brown.i looked inside me and it made so much sense.the futilty of it all.vanity of vanity says the ecclesiastecal preacher.all is vanity.from the rising of the sun,all you put an effort to,all you work to accumulate.vanity.the friends you strive to do for in a bid to keep.the love that seems far beyond reach.i have seen this lonliness.i have experienced it.at every point,i feel one more thing i add to myself will cause happiness to abound.but no.it does nothing to solve it.is it lack of someone to share with?that special someone who shares ur breaths,to whom u are most important in the world?have u found him?pray tell me where.and how does it feel?for after u find that person.they become a...

life will definitely be better for all women when we realise just how precious we all are. young ladies out there,don't down and out yourself. you can say no to some person whom you know deep down in your heart doesnt care a dime for you and just wants the love of your body and the pleasure it brings. the guy has to appreciate you and truly see you as a wonderful person before it will make any sense to him that he is dealing with a human being. what with the male sexual reflex integrated in someplace as superficial in the nervous system as the spinal cord. when you know whom you are there will be no need to sit around and wait for a man to complete you. you all need to wake up and smell the coffee. who is going to marry a woman he has fondled and laid up across the wall of a club? the men make us happy.yes they do...when we are in a loving and stable relationship and all the issues and cards are laid out on the table. however,you do not need to go thru all of that just to secure a ...

No kidding. Are they actually giving presents to men who gave children out in marriage this year ? This is how we are celebrating fathers day? I absolutely cannot believe this. I am almost in tears. So this means I have to marry fast so my father can be given a gift in church. How bad can this really get ? I mean, the pressure from outsiders is not enough but now we have to deal with pressure in church ? I feel like a failure sometimes I'm not going to lie about this. Somehow despite all I've achieved I feel like I haven't done a thing because I'm not married. In my heart, I know God's time is definitely coming for me but I don't understand how this has become such an issue that the church has started doing things like this. Once you appear to be of reproductive age, you are besieged with all sorts of questions about when you are getting married. Varied forms like- 'Where is he' When are we coming to eat rice ? When will we eat cake We want to dance Ah, ...

I've often spoken about things people miss when relationships end or friendships have gone awry. I've often wondered about it far more than I've spoken about it. If you've ever really gotten along well with someone and experienced that bond you'll understand this. 'Friendship' How it feels when someone understands you Completes you. Converses for hours Never judges Never undermines Always has your best interests at heart. Friendship is what I miss most. Knowing you've got my back. Talking endlessly about meaningful and meaningless Sharing stories Judging the world but not ourselves. Thoughtful actions. Yes, I miss our friendship. The longest I've had. The most insightful The ways I learnt That this indeed is how God loves. Yes, I miss friendship. That's what matters most. Xoxo

Very few people have reaLly perfect teeth. Even those with seemingly perfect whites when close up have some sort of malocclusion or the other ? Who really has it going I'm wondering ? So you know they say when you lose something big like maybe you go through a major breakup those are the times when you sit back and do stuff you've always wanted to. There's something inside us all that makes us want to better ourselves when life hits us with a situation that makes us doubt the very essence of what or whom we are. This is probably why people lose weight when they end a relationship. Or gain weight Take up a new habit Start some new business Start blogging And so on and so forth. So I was looking on instagram today and saw this beautiful lady who got maRried and her makeup was done by jideofstola. That's what spurred the malocclusion story. She had perfect white teeth. Then I noticed the slight overbite on the right. Wearing these braces has somewhat made me into an orth...

I started wearing braces in 2013 december. I woke up and realised I could actually do it. So I decided to go do something about my malocclusion. Yes I was pretty with it but it was getting worse. Off I went to LUTH. I was introduced to a fine intelligent dentist who got me on my way to a beautiful set of pearly whites. We aren't there yet but it's frustrating in it's own way. Nothing good comes easy they say. One thing I didn't anticipate was all the pain I would have to bear. Imagine having that pain of a toothache every other week. Complete with headaches and what not. Sometimes I feel frustrated like I'm probably not going to end up with what I desire but somehow I keep encouraging myself to trudge on. People ask me questions all the time. From the very ignorant most especially 'Aren't you slim enough ? Why have you tied your teeth' 'What's wrong with you, why are you talking somehow' 'I like your teeth, they're so fashionable, you...